Clara

In loving memory

Clara

A hand held tight, one generation to the next

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Oh Bologna

Her name was Clelia — named after a contessa in Canicattini Bagni, Sicily. When she arrived in America at seven years old, her first teacher couldn't pronounce it. “From now on, you will be Clara.” And Clara she was, for the next ninety-six years.

She threw the bread overboard on the boat ride over and only ate the ham. She loved coffee and toast in the morning, the newspaper spread across the table, and the Golden Girls every single night. She made pasta the way her mother taught her. She smiled at everyone who walked through the door. And she was sharp as a tack at a hundred years old, don't let her smile fool you!

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Memories

The moments we hold closest

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A Thousand Miles

The drive that changed everything

The drive to Connecticut

I packed the car with the few belongings I had — my clothing and my computer — and left early morning. Not knowing how much there was ahead of me. Many years of hard work, adventure, pains, and challenges. All of it worth it.

It snowed the entire drive, every mile. After two days, I finally reached my grandmother's house late at night. I opened the door, and with a warm and smiling face, there was Grandma on the couch, happy to see a familiar face.

“I want to live here with you, Grandma.”

“That's nice, honey.”

Clara and Parker's hands

There is a great satisfaction doing it yourself
that cannot be bought.

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The Bridge

He built more than a bridge

The bridge

One of the grandest projects — a new bridge in the backyard, over the brook. Twenty feet long, four feet wide. Designed in SketchUp, inspired by US Forestry Service bridges. Built with two hands, a wheelbarrow, and an uncle.

My grandmother was the supervisor, always checking in on us and making sure we were on schedule. She would watch for hours as I worked, excited to see a new bridge go up in her backyard.

My father looked at it and said, “You built a tank.” I laughed and took the compliment.

The plan was for people to get across. But it became something more — an animal bridge. Deer, beavers, foxes, squirrels, all in need of making it to the other side.

Clara's world

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A Life in Full

The everyday moments that meant everything

Hands held tight

Thank you, Grandma

Your father taught you to look out for yourself, help others whenever you could, and always be good to people. You lived every word of it, for a hundred and three years.

You crossed an ocean at seven. You told your mother the night you met Joseph that he was the man you were going to marry. You raised two daughters, watched ten grandchildren grow, and never stopped smiling.

I drove a thousand miles to be with you, and I'd do it a thousand more. “That's nice, honey.”

With all our love,

Parker & Family